ASD and AuDHD peeps deal with this too. It’s usually “to keep the peace” because conflict avoidance, “righteous”, and domestic abuse go hand-in-hand (at least the training for women makes that assumption that more peace = less violence).
Also, this rumination cycle eventually gets coded in your system as a type of PTSD somatic loop - at least, in my experience.
This whole thing landed for me! This happens to me ALL THE TIME. I never knew why it happened. Thank you so much for this! It's so incredibly helpful!!!
Oof this hit deep. I was seeing my partner in earlier versions and now see my pattern. And the compassion I felt when you said it isn’t a choice: I’ve gotten so frustrated that my brain just loops and I feel trapped in it, uncertain of what to trust. Thank you.
ASD and AuDHD peeps deal with this too. It’s usually “to keep the peace” because conflict avoidance, “righteous”, and domestic abuse go hand-in-hand (at least the training for women makes that assumption that more peace = less violence).
Also, this rumination cycle eventually gets coded in your system as a type of PTSD somatic loop - at least, in my experience.
This whole thing landed for me! This happens to me ALL THE TIME. I never knew why it happened. Thank you so much for this! It's so incredibly helpful!!!
Thank you! I totally understand the 3am theory. Although mine just tend to go all night, lol
The thing that hurts me the most around ruminating, is the judgements that are placed on me for CHOOSING TO STAY AWAKE ALL NIGHT TO JUST OVER THINK!!
Oof this hit deep. I was seeing my partner in earlier versions and now see my pattern. And the compassion I felt when you said it isn’t a choice: I’ve gotten so frustrated that my brain just loops and I feel trapped in it, uncertain of what to trust. Thank you.
I’ll be downloading the guide shortly!